On my birthday last Thursday, I got an email from my father. The subject line said, “DO YOU FEEL OLDER?!?!?!?!” Followed by a gigantic, red “HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!” in the body of the email.
I didn’t feel old until he emailed me that…and then I realized that I guess I am officially in my “mid-20s” now. I guess it’s debatable about when that actually starts. 23? 24? 25? I’m inclined to say 24. Welp. That’s fun. I found the remedy for that slight case of the downzies in the form of a 32-oz. margarita.
(Seriously, El Toro Bravo, I love you. Even if you did give me THE most embarrassing post-dinner birthday dessert presentation of my life. Or maybe because of that. But I digress.)
Since then, I’ve been thinking about this whole “mid-20s” thing. And there are several signs that I’m there, mostly revolving around being single and wedding fever. So I bring to you now…
I know I’m [single] in my mid-20s when…:
- I attended my first wedding for a friend last year.
- I attended my younger cousin’s wedding last summer. (Although she’s only younger by like four months…)
- I keep finding out about high school classmates who are engaged, married, pregnant or already parents, thanks to Facebook.
- I have two weddings for friends this summer (and all the events associated with those – showers and bachelorette parties, oh my!).
- I have had night sweats about being the only single person of my friends at said weddings and wondering who I’m going to bribe to dance with me.
- One of my best friends from college is engaged to get married next summer.
- I have already started thinking about which of my guy friends I am going to invite as my “plus one” if I don’t have a significant other at that time.
- My beloved friend Mary may or may not have already sent me a picture of the bridesmaid dress I will be wearing to her wedding when it happens.
- I have joked about a contract with Kirsten that we will be in each other’s wedding parties.
- I have seriously discussed the “how do I choose who is going to be in my wedding party” dilemma with my mother.
- I have seriously had the “what is my engagement ring going to look like” discussion with my mother.
- I have seriously had the “will you wear these pearls from your grandmother on your wedding day” discussion with my mother.
- I have also already picked the song I will dance to with my father at my wedding.
- I have noted that while I have had these discussions with my mother and a few select others, there is still no prospect for a husband in sight.
- I receive questions from extended family every time I see them about my relationship status. (Still single…)
- I have seriously contemplated joining an online dating site to remedy that fact.
That’s among many other things. But these are seriously signs for me. I wasn’t the little girl who planned out the wedding of her dreams and played it out with her baby dolls/Barbie dolls/dress up clothes. I never seriously thought about any of these things, probably until I started living with Kirsten, who has always been a bit wedding-obsessed, our sophomore year. (That’s OK, I still love you!) But to seriously seriously talk about these things? Weird.
I also may or may not have a slight addiction to Say Yes to the Dress on Friday nights on TLC. That’s the one detail of the wedding, aside from the hubby, that I haven’t figured out yet. So I’m just getting ideas. Right? …Right. 😉
What are some other signs of being in your mid-20s, single or not??
Disclaimer: to those friends getting married, I am THRILLED for you and cannot wait for your big days. But yes, I do have nightmares of being the one who catches the bouquet and sobbing in the fetal position under the table with a bottle of champagne because I have no man to freak out with the prospect of us getting married. So if I don’t go diving for it, don’t be upset with me. 😉 Love you all!
P.S.: I will also be more than willing to man two cameras for you on your day,
and try not to look like this…but no promises…